We are into May now and we're now debating how we save the money we need for the deposit. My wonderful Mother has been looking at properties (my parents are helping me with my half of the deposit) and so they've assumed Sean and I are ready to move immediately on a property. So I had to re-negotiate that vision, as we're not - also Sean and I are saving together to pay for the other half of the deposit. It makes it difficult, my parents are wonderful to pay for my half of the deposit but I wish they would phrase it that they're paying for half of OUR deposit as we're moving in to our first bought place together. We've been together for 6 years this year, it's not a short period of time.
I do get it, they're paying for their daughter but I do feel this overriding feeling from them that they're paying for my half because if our relationship implodes then the money they paid for me isn't up for debate, it was my half. I just don't do well with that kind of... assumption? I don't know what I would call it... it took a long time for Sean to be accepted by the family and I know he still struggles with their critiques at times - I struggle with that as well. So it feels like another critique and that makes me sad.
It's all a bit overwhelming, but I've got to get it in perspective. When we've bought the first one, and I can pay Mum and Dad back, then we'll be able to move up the market when we can afford bigger deposits on our own.
I don't have any doubt that we'll be together for the long run, with all it's ups and downs, and that's that! We always prioritised buying a house over doing the whole marriage thing, but we've been talking about getting engaged more so recently - we've even discussed exactly what kind of ring I want. Just so you know, I'm planning on a unique halo using a central round diamond with aquamarine halo. I'm not sure about the whole marriage event/day thing - that makes me nervous, but being with Sean, that's an easy answer.
House this year, then we'll see where we are!